Referencing Matt. 18: 22-35, he says to live in grace is to live in an unending stream of forgiveness that grace both receives and gives forgiveness without measure. For us to receive the grace of God and yet refuse to forgive others is an act of wickedness. To live in unforgiveness is to hold on to a past hurt and let it define who we are. Unforgiveness distorts our memories, impairs our judgement, and destroys our relationships because unforgiveness leads to bitterness. Unforgiveness is ungratefulness.
To live in grace is to live in an unending stream of forgiveness, to be genuinely grateful for the forgiveness given to you. We will then in turn extend grace and forgiveness to others.
Our memories will define who you are and who you will become. Until you can see the work of God in the worst thing that has happened to you, you have not yet begun to see your life with the eyes of God. Gratitude will change your outlook and perspective, find the good that God has brought out of the hurt, betrayal, or disappointment. When we can return and give thanks we have truly been made whole.
Perspective is formed in the context of gratitude, when we choose to keep our eyes on God and not on our circumstances. “We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God, to whose who are called according to His purpose……to be conformed to the image of His Son.” Romans 8:28